What greater thing is there for two human souls
than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness,
to be one with each other in the
silent, unspoken memories?
"What am I going to do with you?" I would ask Mr. Peevie, before he became Mr. Peevie.
"Fall in love with me and marry me," he would answer every time. So I did. I fell in love with him because he laughed at my jokes and made me laugh; he always made me feel like I was the smartest and most beautiful woman in the room; and the way he loved me pointed me to Jesus.
We were impecunious graduate students for whom a ten-year-old Chevy and a stereo symbolized great wealth; and my parents still had one child in college and a house that had lost a significant chunk of its market value--so we did the wedding on the cheap. My borrowed wedding dress had to be altered for my narrow shoulders and slightly-less-than-average height. The bridesmaids did not complain (much) about their green polyester skirts and floral blouses with lace around the square necklines, sewn by a local seamstress.
My pastor and my cousin performed the ceremony together, with my pastor doing the homily (I remember something about not fighting over who takes out the trash, but that's it) and my cousin officiated the vows at our church in downtown Tulsa, Oklahoma. We were, I think, my cousin's first wedding as an ordained minister. It seems to have taken. So far.
The cake-and-punch-and-little-bowls-of-nuts reception in the church fellowship hall was like something out of Lake Wobegon. After the photos and circulating and smiling and cake-eating, we headed to my parents' home for cold cuts and ambrosia salad with family and close friends. It was simple and sweet and slightly dorky.
The next day we headed off to Cancun for our honeymoon. We both promptly got sick with Montezuma's Revenge, and spent the next week fighting for the bathroom. "Things can only get better from here!" we assured each other; and they have.
Thanks for 26 deliriously happy years together, honey. Being married to you is a most excellent gift. Here is another little poem in honor of me being the lucky one:
To keep your marriage brimming
With love in the loving cup
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up.