tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3247899948019262860.post7282772341273800493..comments2023-09-09T10:29:29.789-05:00Comments on The Green Room: It's a Boy Thing. No, Wait. It's a Girl Thing, Too.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17709842445396738547noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3247899948019262860.post-48879573657240768772008-07-23T22:59:00.000-05:002008-07-23T22:59:00.000-05:00Lilia and Steve,Thanks for commenting. It's a sham...Lilia and Steve,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for commenting. It's a shame when parents use shame as a corrective measure, no matter what the concern is.<BR/><BR/>Steve, I don't know how credible Smalley is on this issue. I checked out his web site, and he tends to make gender-based generalizations without supporting them with research/data.<BR/><BR/>I think much of what passes for research on gender differences lies somewhere closer to "bogus" than "boffo" on the reliability scale.<BR/><BR/>I can feel another post simmering on this topic.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17709842445396738547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3247899948019262860.post-78825780120140734742008-07-22T10:40:00.000-05:002008-07-22T10:40:00.000-05:00Hi e. peevie,Great to read about your children! On...Hi e. peevie,<BR/><BR/>Great to read about your children! On this gender issue, I can't cite chapter and verse of studies, but people as credible, to my mind anyway, as Gary Smalley say there are some hardwired influences of nature, not just nurture, on how and how much boys and girls / men and women talk, how they go about shopping, etc. But that doesn't mean everybody fits, or should fit, on the same point of the bell curve with respect to any one of these things. <BR/><BR/>I certainly share your concern not to limit a child's potential by saying only boys, or only girls, can do a particular thing well. Why don't we all just go with the flow of the child's manifest abilities and interests?<BR/><BR/>My wife and I got really into Gilmore Girls. We watched every single episode of every season on DVD. Our two boys, aged 11 and 6, also got into it. Still, whenever it was their turn to choose, they seem to have an ingrained preference for Star Wars and anything with action and noise.<BR/><BR/>Now this thing lilia said about a boy in girl's clothing is curious. I mean, didn't mothers in a previous generation purposely dress up their little boys in what sure as heck looks to me like a dress, and have them professionally photographed in it? And that was a pretty macho culture back then. I've never quite figured that out. Maybe the mothers just wanted to have an instrument by which to blackmail their sons, by threatening to show it to people when they're teenagers! ;-)Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08300972358103400058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3247899948019262860.post-70503670344320584672008-07-07T11:38:00.000-05:002008-07-07T11:38:00.000-05:00Hi E. Really sad how narrow minded that lady is, ...Hi E. Really sad how narrow minded that lady is, but unfortunately, I think she's in the majority. One of my very well educated friends, really, really freaked out when his son would come over and put on my girls' dress up shoes, crowns, gowns and jewelry. This was before the boy was 5. "Are you a girl?" was asked loudly and forcefully. As for my girls, I kept keep my first dd's toys gender neutral as well as her clothes. But kids are who they are. She is uber girly. Sometimes I wonder if my efforts backfired LOL. My little one loves cars but is heavily influenced by her older sis.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com